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Weddings are often one of the most significant events in most people’s lives. You spend months (and sometimes years) planning for your big day. So many factors go into it, like money, choosing an engagement and wedding ring, and deciding how many guests you want to invite.
You may have heard of “bridezillas” and “groomzillas” before. These are words to describe couples about to wed that just seem to go down a path of poor behavior and emotional reactions during the wedding process. Perhaps they react poorly to every dress or scream at the cake maker for a small detail missed.
If this sounds like someone you know (or even you and your spouse), you may be wondering, what is the cause of this reaction? Let’s take a look.
You may be worried that your newly engaged sister has suddenly turned into a gremlin, but fear not. Wedding stress is very common, and your sister’s reaction is likely temporary.
Significant life events and changes are some of the most common stressors that exist. You may be thinking: But weddings are happy events! That can’t be!
Well, yes, weddings are happy events. However, the planning, time, and dedication that go into making a wedding the “day of your dreams” are not so happy or fun. It can be stressful, time-consuming, and full of pressure. After all, the couple getting married is planning for what is supposed to be the only wedding they’ll ever have. They want to make it count.
After the wedding, you’re tasked with creating a healthy marriage and learning how to potentially live with someone new. It’s all a bunch of pressure, and everyone knows that humans do not perform well under pressure.
So, if your brother is getting married and seems to be picking fights over every little detail, maybe send him to this article so he can find some ways to calm down.
Don’t worry! There are plenty of ways to help yourself calm down before your wedding. Here are just a few of our favorites.
You don’t have to do it alone. A wedding coordinator can take some of the stress off you by planning your decorations, venue, food, budget, appointments, date, invitations, and more.
For some people, planning is the worst part of having a wedding. If this sounds like you, let a coordinator take it for you.
See if your family and friends are willing to pitch in with some things. If you’re very stressed about decorating your venue for the big day, ask family members and friends to take on the decorations for you. You can leave them with your plan and setup, and take some time to yourself to take some deep breaths.
Stress always seems to find us when we’re already stressed. However, this is your big day! It’s essential that you try to avoid stress as much as possible. If there are certain family members who seem to try to make everything worse or pick fights, try to avoid them.
You may feel like it’s silly to talk to a counselor or mentor before your wedding, but it’s not. Counselors are available for any step in life and any person. You don’t even need to have a specific mental health condition to see one. You can simply visit a counselor for advice if you feel like you need it. You can also just vent.
Now you know why some couples seem to lose their mind before their wedding. Try to be a little more compassionate for the bride or groom in your life, even if it is you!
If you want to learn more about behavioral patterns and how they manifest in others, check out this website.